Gratitude and Your Relationship

What is gratitude, and what part can it play in a relationship?

Gratitude is not a one-time event but rather a mindset that requires cultivation. A gratitude mindset can refocus your attention, pointing out all the small, easily over-looked things your partner does. The gratitude mindset silences anti-appreciative or negative thoughts you may be feeling towards your partner. When you embrace gratitude and make it part of your inner dialogue, you’ll hear yourself saying, “She’s such a thoughtful person” or “Our children are lucky to have him as a father.”

Adopting the mindset of gratitude takes commitment. But, if you decide to become more consistently grateful for your partner or spouse, look what you’ll get in return - you’ll feel better about yourself and your relationship. You’ll feel more positive and optimistic about the future of your relationship or marriage. Your partner will sense this optimism and positive outlook and therefore will feel appreciated, and become infected by your spread of gratitude.
 

Mike Friganiotis

Cairns Family Relationship Centre

Community Development Officer