‘Imagine you had a magic wand and you waved it around to make your wishes come true for the next day and you went to sleep. Next morning, you woke up. How would your family be different?’ This question or variations of it has helped me and the people I work with to understand their values when it comes to their families. To most people’s surprise, the answers don’t have much to do with finances or material things. Here are some of the most common answers:
- We would all feel respected and valued
- Everyone would be talking with each other
- People would be able to trust each other and be honest with each other
- We would be spending more time together
- We won’t be arguing or fighting as much
- Everyone would be more supportive and understanding
- There would be more acceptance about out differences
Respect, honesty, trust, peace, harmony, acceptance, closeness and connection. These are common core values that most families share. Sometimes, for a variety of reasons, it is not so easy to hold onto these values and act and be in ways that are in line with our values. However, it is definitely possible. Sometimes it takes one individual to take a small step to start making bigger changes in their family and it can snowball into a change within the whole community.
If you can relate to the answers to ‘the magic wand’ question, we are here to support you and your family. Relationship Australia Queensland offers counselling and relationship education to families, couples and individuals who would like to build and maintain healthy relationships.
Our next relationship education course for stepfamilies starts on 26th of July. For more information, you can call 1300 364 277.
-- Gamze is a Relationship Educator at Relationships Australia Qld